To Embrace Change or Not

defeat in the boxing ringChange slapped me in the face a few weeks ago. More accurately, it slugged me so hard it knocked me down.

Has that ever happened to you?

For most of us life ushers in change. Getting married, having a baby, a child heads off to college. Or losing a loved one, a devastating illness, getting laid off.

When you’re in business for yourself—and yes, writers fit into that category—changes often include [Read more…]

The Conference Is Over, What Now?

This past weekend I was at the 2016 Wordsowers Christian Writers’ Conference where I taught on Scrivener, and also heard pitches from authors.

During the opening session, the conference director, Kat Crawford, asked how many were attending their first writers conference. I was pleasantly surprised to see nearly half the attendees raise their hands.

Kudos to you for taking that first major step toward honing your craft and getting your words out into the world.

Now that you’re back home, you might be wondering what to do now. [Read more…]

Battling the Fear of Self-Doubt

Have you ever said to yourself “who wants to read what I have to write?”

Maybe you hear those niggling words in your head everyday? Once a month? Maybe it’s just once in awhile, but even that is more often than you want to hear them.

I’ve been battling those particular words since I started writing back when I was 12 years old.

The verbiage may vary, [Read more…]

Getting Past Failure

I’ve blogged about fear before, many times. For me growing up and as an adult, fear rode on my shoulder like the proverbial mini devil whispering in my ear. Maybe fear had a stronger influence on me because failure equaled rejection.

Recent events in my life have brought a lot of questions. Is my goal to make a living as a full-time freelance writer impossible? Do I need to give it up and go back to the traditional world of 9 to 5?

Does going back to a 9-5 job mean I’ve failed at my dream? No, it doesn’t! Because I can still keep working at my dream while working my day job. With determination and perseverance I will succeed.

Through all this I’ve learned it’s okay to fail because it means at least I tried. Too many people have dreams and that’s all they ever are—dreams. They don’t even try; they just make excuses.

Don’t let fear of failure, or fear of anything, stop you from reaching for your dreams. Because unlike so many others out there, you can say “At least I tried. Did you?”

With determination and perseverance you boost your chances at success. So get up off the bench and trot out onto the field. Believe in yourself. Begin today to reach for your dreams.

What are your dreams? What’s stopping you? Leave your comments below.

Debra L. Butterfield © 2013

We All Have Two Beginning Choices

I overslept the other day, throwing my schedule way out of kilter. I had two choices when I threw off the bed covers: berate myself all day for not getting up on time, or tell myself it’s okay, I’ll do better tomorrow.

I’m well acquainted with the dirt life dishes out (If you want to know more, email me). And if there’s one thing I’ve learned through all my difficulties, it’s that all decisions are birthed from a positive or negative attitude. I can face the situation head on with an attitude of “I can do this” and then proceed to win the battle. Or I can plop down and say “I can’t do this” and let the circumstances defeat me.

Maybe that seems simplistic to you, but it’s true. Our attitude directs our decisions. If you tend toward negativity, a change in attitude starts with positive thinking. But as you succeed in one battle, and then another, and another, thinking becomes believing. Deep down, gut level believing.

I’ll be the first to admit, I’ve done my share of moaning. I believed I would get through, but my negative outlook kept me from being as successful in the fight as I could have been.

I don’t want to “just get through.” I want to come out stronger and wiser, not wounded and hurting. Having a positive attitude can make that happen. A positive attitude also gives you the peace and courage you need.

How about it? Next time life throws a pebble, rock, or boulder, stop first and examine your attitude, then make the necessary decisions.


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